SUPPORTING YOUR CHILD THROUGH HAIRCUTS

Written By Claudia Watson

Haircuts can be overwhelming for neurodivergent children due to heightened sensitivity to touch, noise, smell, and changes in routine. With some simple prep and supportive strategies, you can help make this experience more positive and predictable.

BEFORE THE HAIRCUT: PREPARE AND EMPOWER

TALK ABOUT WHAT TO EXPECT

  • Use a visual schedule, social story, or role play with toys to walk through each step

  • Watch videos of other kids getting haircuts—pause and narrate what’s happening

  • If helpful, let your child practice on a doll, sibling, or you

OFFER PREDICTABILITY & CONTROL

  • Let them choose the haircut time of day, clothes to wear, or a reward for after

  • Visit the salon ahead of time just to say hi or explore the space

  • Agree on a “stop” signal your child can use if they need a break

PRE-REGULATION TOOLS

  • Deep pressure play (bear hugs, compression vest, couch squishes)

  • Proprioceptive input (carrying a backpack, wall pushes, animal walks)

  • Calming ritual before leaving (weighted lap pad, music, cozy corner time)

DURING THE HAIR CUT: COMFORT AND CONNECTION

SENSORY SUPPORTS

• Bring a familiar towel or cape, or ask the hairdresser to cut without a cape if needed

• Use ear defenders or soft earbuds to reduce sound

• Try unscented spray bottles or allow the child to hold their own comb

• Offer sensory fidgets or a lap weight for grounding

DISTRACTION & ENGAGEMENT

• Let them watch a favourite show, hold a preferred toy, or listen to calming music

• Tell a funny story, play “I spy,” or count tools together to shift focus

• Mirror play: let your child hold a mirror to watch what’s happening for predictability

ONGOING SUPPORT

• Remind your child of what’s happening next (“First we spray, then snip”)

• Praise every win, no matter how small (“You’re doing great staying so still!”)

• Honour breaks if needed—it’s okay to do a haircut in steps

AFTER THE HAIRCUT

  • Offer a movement break (swing, run, scooter ride)

  • Let your child decompress in a favorite quiet space

  • Celebrate with something positive: a treat, a sticker, or even just a high five

EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT

Some children may only tolerate partial trims at a time—and that’s okay. Start small, listen to your child’s cues, and celebrate progress at their pace. You’re not alone—and there are ways to build regulation, trust, and even fun into what used to be a stressful task.

Claudia Watson
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